hadesmadeit asked: "cis girls are..." "cafab people..." what is this, person born with a penis being bigoted against persons born with a vagina hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm where have I seen that before? you hate females be honest
tsubomihanasaki, you are 15 so I am actually not gonna get into it any further than I have but I just want to say a few things because I think that facts and being clear (even if you disagree strenuously with someone) are really important.
It’s common for people to confuse biological sex and gender. Our sex only refers to our sexual anatomy and chromosomes.
This is why a one-minute old female baby (and I’m not talking about intersex folks here because they are not necessarily trans or cis) will look the same no matter where, when, how, or why she was born.
Sex is not a mutable characteristic. You can’t choose to become another sex (although you can surgically change your external sexual anatomy and secondary sex characteristics).
This is also why so many female fetuses are never born at all. Clearly, a fetus (who has not yet entered in the world) has no GENDER. And yet, the female fetus is targeted for destruction.
Question: Do you think a fetus of a person who will later identify as MTF would be aborted within the context of female infanticide? If why, why? If why not, why not?
Put simply, having a vagina has everything to do with being female. It is the definition of it. I think that you should probably have covered that in biology.
yes i hate females you figured it out like having a vagina has anythingto do with being female
Our gender is our biological, social, and legal status as girls and boys, women and men. Each culture has standards about the way that people should behave based on their gender. For example, many cultures expect and encourage men to be more aggressive than women.
Gender refers to the socially constructed roles, behaviors, activities and attributes that a given society considers appropriate for men and women. This is why whatever being a “woman” or being “feminine” is will change from place to place, from time to time, from body to body, nation to nation, race to race and class to class. This is why women can look like this. This is why what a woman is is never the same for any time people alive on earth.
Being a woman is whatever we dream it (yes, it is by definition non-binary) because being a woman is nothing real. It is only one thing almost universally: ”woman” is a class subservient to “man.”
Gender =/= sex.
The reason why we know this is because “gender” is determined by what a sex assignment is. If someone saw a baby one minute after birth and their genitals were covered, no one would know what gender that baby was. At birth, after seeing a vagina, the doctor goes “its a girl!” Or before birth, the doctor does a test or looks at a sonogram and goes, “it’s a girl.” and, automatically, things and decisions begin to be made. An abortion. Or that the room the baby is put in will be all pink. Or that the minute that baby is cleaned up and put on her mom’s chest to nurse, every coos “oooh, she’s so pretty.”
Those are all totally unrelated to the fact of her vagina.
But because we live in patriarchy, the fact of her vagina means that she is a girl/woman. And because we live in patriarchy, the perception that someone has a vagina means that they will be treated a certain way. And her behavior, the expectations of her life, and the limits of who and what she can be, who has access to her body, what she is allowed to do, all are determined based on that perception of her having a vagina.
This is why people freak the fuck out when they CANNOT gender a baby, because they literally do not know how to TREAT the baby.
That has repercussions that are immediate. Which is what I think that radical feminists are trying to talk about. That has affects on females. That affects how we move through the world even before we know ourselves to be gendered beings we are being groomed to be subservient beings and dominant beings. That is real.
And that is why we want to get rid of gender. Because being groomed is not what any person should have to go through. There should be no “way” to be male. or “female.” There may still be sex dysphoria, the fact that one’s body is deeply out of sync with one’s mind. But identifying as a woman should mean nothing. Sex should mean nothing except that you have eggs and not sperm.
We should be working together to make our world more expansive. By insisting that there is no such thing as sex, only gender. Or by insisting that sex is a choice or an identity, instead of something that has real world, deadly consequences for HALF OF THE PLANET feels deeply misogynist.
I just wanted to provide some information about where some folks are coming from in this discussion. To understand why trans women and females have a shitload of overlap, and we also have divergence. And that we aren’t going to get anywhere until we don’t just yell “cis girls are stupid” and understand the pain that the divergence causes both of our classes and how we are best situated to help each other understand that pain.
Plus, the people who are killing us all are not the ones that we are blaming for our pain. It may be easier, but it won’t make things better.
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People starving when tons of unsold food is thrown away globally because people couldn’t afford to purchase the food, that’s violence.
People dying and going bankrupt to pay for their healthcare, that’s violence.
People being evicted from their homes when there are more houses than there are houseless people, that’s violence.
"The Dignity of Work", by Jen Sorensen
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April 16th - It’s all about flowers at the moment. I was in Telford for the first time for a couple of weeks, and spring has come on incredibly fast in the intervening period. As ever, the bed of tulips and other flowers at Telford railway station is incredible - but the daffodils - now going over a bit - were gorgeous at Hortonwood. It was sunny, and warm, and the wind seems to be dying a bit at long last. As I ground my way up Shire Oak Hill late afternoon, I noticed the first Spanish bluebells in the hedgerow by Lanes Farm.
This was worth the wait.
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